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June 20, 2010
by yati
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Little Chef on the Potty

Nora is teething again… and this time it’s really hurting her and Calpol doesn’t seem to help as much as it did. She will wake up crying and tear streaming down her face :(

To take her mind of things… teething and stress of going to nursery… today I put a large sheet of plastic under her high chair and she helped me make banana bread.

I think it was fun for her. She tried to taste the flour I’m sure as when I turned around, there was a blob of flour around her lips, but from that point on, she was just playing with the flour with her measuring spoons. By then end of it, she was covered in flour… and the banana cake came out perfect!

With all the mess, it was time for her bath. I was still preparing her bath so sat her on the potty and told her to pee while I got things ready… and she did!!

With that success, I will keep on putting her on the potty before her baths.

June 18, 2010
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Not Settling

It breaks my heart every morning having to leave Nora. I don’t send her to the nursery, Jules does that, and I pick her up after work… but she still cries for me when I leave her with Jules and my heart aches every time I hear her cry.

She’s not settling in the nursery either and today will be her her twelfth day. She still screams and the only way they could feed her is to give her spoonful of food between screams… and that shouldn’t be the case really.

Jules says that the nursery has to figure out how to handle Nora. Yes, I agree and I’m sure that they tried everything that they possibly could… but it can’t be good for Nora to be stressed all the time. Maybe nursery is not for her and we have to look at alternative.

I was talking to one of the staff and she doesn’t even think that childminding would work for Nora as Nora seems to want one to one interaction… which they can’t really give as there are other babies around and with childminders, there will be other children around. Tasha thinks that what might work is a nanny. They had cases like this before where the baby did not settle in immediately and the child is then goes to an alternative care for a few months and then goes back to the nursery and they are fine.

The nursery’s manager will try to call me on Monday and have a chat. She might not suggest what was mentioned above, and if she does, she also will realise that we can’t magically find an alternative care immediately. In the mean time I think we would have to think of an alternative, just in case… it might be inconvenient for us, but we have to think about what is best for her.

June 16, 2010
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Angry Baby

Nora is not very happy at the moment. I can’t blame her. After months of undivided attention, she now has to go to nursery and mingle with other babies and share the nursery careworker’s attention.

And… when my mom was here, she had so (too) much body contact. Whenever she cried, moaned and complained, my mom will pick her up to soothe her. Don’t get me wrong, mom was a great help… but I guess there is such a thing as too much help… and being a grandmother… like any other grandmothers, she couldn’t hear Nora cry… not even for five minutes, let alone a second.

So now, Nora screams. She screams from 8am, when Jules sends her to nursery, until 4pm when I pick her up from nursery. Our walk home is pleasant as she’s quiet and munching her rice cakes… but now, she has brought her screaming home.

She is no longer happy at playing alone. She wants me constantly. And I have to show her that she can’t have what she wants all the time. I let her scream in her playpen in the front room and get on with my home chores.

It will be hard work to get her to how she was.

I’m sorry Nora… but Mama is doing this because Mama loves you too much.

But one good news…. her hunger strike might be over.

June 11, 2010
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Bruised Forehead and Screams

Camilla called me at the office today letting me that Nora didn’t eat anything and refused to drink her milk. She has also been screaming the whole day. She wasn’t crying… she was just angry.

When I got there, I decided to stay for a bit and let her play but she would not let me go but after giving her milk, she perked up and waved at everyone in the nursery.

I guess she just wanted her Mama.

I was feeding her pegedil (Malaysian potato cake) and Tiny arrived… immediately Nora grabbed me and would not let me go. I don’t know why… she knows Tiny.

She has a big bruise on her forehead now.

I put her to sleep on our bed and positioned pillows all around her. Went to the kitchen to finish cooking dinner and when I was just about to dish out dinner for myself, I heard her crying. I ran to the room to find her on the floor.

My poor little baby…

June 10, 2010
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No Cuddles for Tasha

Nora would not let go of me this morning at the nursery. She kept hugging me when Tasha asked for a cuddle. She wasn’t crying. She was smiling and laughing but she just didn’t want to let me go.

Tasha managed to take her off me in the end and I said a quick goodbye.

Hope she won’t scream as much today as apparently she screamed the whole day yesterday… again let me emphasise that she wasn’t crying… just screaming!

June 8, 2010
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Dashing Off

Mak called earlier this afternoon to let me know that Nora is actually crawling now.

For weeks she’s been pirouting on on her bum to get to places… and she’s also figured out how to move her foot one after another when we’re holding her up. I guess, she must have put two and two together and made a dash for it.

Apparently she tried to crawl towards the kitchen but Mak was in the way so she turned into our bedroom.

It time for us to invest on a stair gate before she decides to make a run for it!

June 6, 2010
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Upah

That means tip or pay or benefit.

The saying in Malaysia when a baby gets fever due to teething is that the baby is receiving his/her upah or benefit in life.

So I’m really hoping that Nora’s high temperature is due to three more teeth coming out and nothing more serious…

Alice – Thanks for the neurofen tip. Unfortunately, after we got it, I checked on the NHS site and they don’t recommend for babies with asthma taking any ibuprofen. I know they haven’t diagnosed Nora yet…  but I don’t  want to risk it.

June 3, 2010
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Thoughts

I’d be lying if I said that everything is going great.

I am finding it hard to juggle motherhood, being a wife and work at the same time. But things has to be done and a lot of expectations to be met.

I just wish there’s a manual to help me through.

June 1, 2010
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An Hour Thirty Minutes

That was how long Nora was at the nursery today. It was her first settling in day.

I sat with one of the nursery worker talking about her needs while she was playing with others. As my mom and I was about to leave, Nora started to cry… not because we were leaving I don’t think. But of course mom, like any grandmothers, went to console her.

What is it about grandparents? Surely they know by now that babies cry.

Tasha (I think) took Nora and kept her occupied as we said goodbye and left the nursery.

Mom and I went shopping and at 11am we went to pick Nora up. The poor thing was crying. But she had been OK before. I was told that she wasn’t happy after she had her nappy change. I guess… she just has to get used to having someone else to tend to her needs. Mama can’t be there all the time…

Mama is sorry…