Is this the same as controlled crying? Some moms are so against not picking up your baby when she is crying but what if you’ve done everything and you can see that your baby is tired but refuses to sleep? Is it cruel after holding your baby for half an hour, and the baby is still grumbling to put her on the bed and let her be?

I’ve been doing that to Nora lately. After all else fails, I put her on our big bed, give her a kiss and tell her ‘Nora tidur’ (sleep Nora). She’ll shriek and scream. A few minutes later the shriek and scream will be less frequent. And a few minutes after that, she’s fast asleep.

I’m not  not attending to my child’s needs. I know her different cries. I know when she’s in pain, I know when she’s not well, I know when she wants my attention… and I know when she’s fighting her tiredness. When she does that, and I’m around she’ll fight it more as I’m a distraction to her sleep.

She’s sleeping now… which what she needs to do as in half hour I will have to wake her up for your Tuesday’s rhyme time session. It’s better for her to cry herself to sleep and have a bit of rest than a grumpy little Nora all the way through rhyme time.